This morning a 91year old woman at an old age home in the middle of Sandton was raped. The rapist broke in at 2:45am and left the premises at 5:45am. He did not steal anything and knew that the electric fencing did not work and how to gain access to the property.
What was the point of this senseless violence?
“Corrective rape”, rape as an initiation into gangs, prostitution, incestuous rape – I cannot tell you how much senseless, hateful and destructive violence I see our children go through on a DAILY basis. Women are raped every minute in our Country. That’s right, every minute.
Rape is on the increase yet we continue to sexualise everything. What is it going to take to get our society to shift mindset from sex to constructive and meaningful media interactions?
Women are encouraged to sell their bodies and even images of their bodies for money. What has FHM or Playboy done to enhance and grow young women in South Africa?
What about the headlines from the other day about mentally challenged girl that was gang raped and tortured? What initiates the blatant abuse and destruction of another human being?
When the Top TV pornography channel was rejected, there were cries for freedom of expression, right to view pornography, etc, etc. Along with that outcome, there was also light shed on the direct link between sexual violence and pornography.
Call me conservative, but until you have met a girl who has been sold into a life of prostitution where she unwillingly is raped every day by countless men, you will not understand the severity of the problem in our Country. The sad and painful fact is that my above example is not one in a million, but more common that I would care to admit.
Remember that brothel in Durban that was exposed in the news a few weeks ago where 15 teenage girls were kept locked behind bars like animals? I have been to brothels like this, I have seen women and girls enslaved and tortured and forced into a life of drugs to cover their pain.
I have seen children being raised in these brothels, exposed to the disease and destruction on a daily basis, often ending up in the same places as their mothers because they know no better.
How do we solve this problem?
I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again – if there wasn’t a market for it, it wouldn’t be happening.
This is a controversial statement that I am aware of, but if men were not buying sex, women would not become sex slaves, ripped from their families and trafficked half way around the world to serve some man’s sexual needs.
How do we change this culture?
How do we shift a mindset?
How do we change the mindset of a man who thinks that “if a woman wears a short skirt in public, that he has a right to rape her”?
*Please note that all of my opinions are expressed in my private capacity and do not reflect the opinions of the organisations that I am affiliated to